Wow. Actually an interesting flip of the coin, Blue. You hear that ever-famous line, “I didn’t ask to be here (born)!” Well, guess what, you were born, now you are here and you have some responsibilities. (IMO)
I can’t make my child love me, thankfully, mine do love me. I do expect respect – as I show my children respect. I extend trust and honest, I think I am owed the same. It’s not always guaranteed, children make mistakes, so do parents.
We’re pretty clear in our house.
1. Be honest
2. Always do your best – it doesn’t have to be perfect, but you need to do your best.
3. Be respectful and we will do the same.
4. You live in this house, you will help maintain the house.
5. We have rules, obey them or yes, there will be consequences.
6. Know that we always love you. You may not like what we decide, but we make our decision based on our beliefs and the understanding that we are trying to do the best for you, always.
I think that children need to be aware of what is expected of them and hopefully, they will return what you expect. (not always – it’s a work in progress. I’m still learning – 15 & 5, I still am learning!)