@Jack79: I hear ya. Well, this friend of mine also now is under curfew, (like she is from her parents incidentally), from his 19-year old girlfriend, because apparently she doesn’t trust him to hang out with his friends anymore. I mean, what’s a 19-year old doing calling the shots because she is immature, and what is a 47 year old (sorry, did the math wrong everyone, he’s actually 47) doing taking orders from a 19-year old?
@tb1570: Who cares? Well, if the situation looks unhealthy, usually friends and family care. Wouldn’t you wish someone would point out the obvious if you were temporarily blinded about a situation? Should we all just let our loved ones learn the hard way, when morally some of us feel obliged to be true friends, even when it may be uncomfortable for us??? Come on, don’t tell me you would let a friend do something that’s unhealthy for them without voicing your opinion, a little. What kind of friend would you be if you didn’t?
And can so many people be wrong??? Everyone has told this guy the situation is not ideal for him, yet he continues to pursue this relationship. Perhaps I am the one who is asking this question because it is bothering me that someone I know is doing something unhealthy. And what that means to me is that while they are doing it, I wan’t no part of being around them, because by association I’m condoning their spiral into a destructive ending.
But, talking through this thread with others and their experiences has confirmed to me, that in my friend’s case, it’s just not a good relationship. So I guess, in conclusion, I won’t be around when the meltdown occurs, since he’s taken great pains to isolate everyone from his life in order to woo this volatile young woman. Man, this is good therapy talking it out on fluther :)