You did the sucky, but right thing. Good for you for making the tough decision. You just faced one of those decisions that parents have to make, for the right reason. Thing is, a lot of us did those things, but it didn’t make it right. If there was drinking or sex involved, like it was mentioned above, as the responsible adult – you would be held liable – if something happened. You just took a big step on the road to being a responsible person – one able to make the right decision, even though not the popular decision. Impressive.
@nikipedia – You are right. Lots of kids did those things, and are fine; however, every year, there are lots of children that aren’t so fine. That is the part that while you are making those decisions, you must take into consideration. —Also the fact that as minors, it is illegal. Unfortunately, I didn’t graduate with 5 friends, because they did those things and were not so fine. 4 died and 1 is (well, she is fine) a paraplegic. While she was 16, in fact, at her 16th birthday party – she left with her best friend and got in a horrific car accident. They were found 2 hours later, she was pinned under the car, her friend thrown from the windshield and slammed into a tree. She had to be identified by dental records, along with other identifying markers.
As far as sex, I don’t want to be the parent that is confronted when another parent realizes that the party, where their daughter got pregnant (probably) occurred at your house. Believe me, as that parent, you are looked at as part of the problem. It might seem irrational – but it happens.
As parents, we make lots of decisions, and, on some levels, we may take some issues with those decisions; however, we must weigh all sides of the issue. There are ones that don’t always make sense, but they are generally, made for the right reason.