@hearkat – my husband is “healthy” in every meaning of the word, except for his weight. There are health ramifications to carrying the extra weight; however, overall, he is healthy. I did not say healthy, but that was just an omission.
When I met my husband, he already was overweight, he’s just gained more, over the years. He was already losing hair. Once I had a conversation with him, I realized something about him that I hadn’t ever realized about another person on the planet. That conversation wasn’t enough. I wanted to talk to him more. Each time I spoke to him, I wanted more. I still do. That, coupled with what I found to be an attractive man on the outside – no not perfect, but damn…he was attractive to me, was what eventually made me fall in love with this fantastic man.
To me, “healthy” means not anorexic. Frankly, on side of my family has many obese members, I find several of them to be beautiful people. I don’t just look at the cover before I make any judgments. I actually get to know the person, because if they aren’t well-spoken, keep up with things and have a wonderful sense of humor – I probably couldn’t be in a relationship with that person, I don’t care if it was Johnny Depp standing in front of me, it wouldn’t work.
I don’t think it’s safe to assume anything about how a person really judges another person. You don’t really know how a person decides if they are attracted to another person.