I rarely drink anymore, and even when I did drink more frequently, I wasn’t fond of clubs. I was always a wallflower, and have worked hard these past 10 years to be a little more outgoing. In fact, a new acquaintance said that maybe I should now describe myself as a sociable introvert!
I don’t care for crowds or club music, and I’m still way too self-conscious to get on the dance floor. But I do enjoy live music, and like to go hear local artists. Since I’ve started pursuing a social life again, I find that I tolerate clubs so much better now that there’s no smoking allowed! I’ve also made a pair of musicians earplugs to soften the sound to safer levels, and I can hear conversation easier.
I don’t need to drink to enjoy myself, sometimes I’ll have one drink at the start of the evening, then switch to water. My son is about to turn 18, and although it isn’t legal yet, most of his friends drink. My son doesn’t drink because there is a long history of alcoholism and addiction on his father’s side of the family. Most of his friends are respectful of that, and my son has no problem saying “no”. But he still goes to parties and hangs out. There’s no rule that everyone must drink when alcohol is available.
You shouldn’t feel pressured to go if you truly don’t like it; but if you can make modification or accomodations for the aspects that bother you, you might be able to join them and enjoy yourself!