I used to really want to be a gestational surrogate, because I’ve always wanted to give that gift to someone.
Then I had my son and thought “no way!” because I was miserable while pregnant, painful recovery…I thought it’d be too hard to actually give the baby up even if it was not mine biologically.
Well, this pregnancy is going fabulous, and I was not expecting that. Yes, I am tired and sometimes nauseous, but otherwise I feel great. So, I may reconsider.
I do not want to be biologically tied to the child at all. This would be their baby. If it were a gay couple, I would want them to find a suitable egg donor. I would expect to be compensated for all medical bills plus some. I would do it through an agency or something, I don’t care if it’s a gay, straight or bi couple….if they want children and I feel a connection to them, then I would know it was right.
I don’t think I would do it until I’m done having my own children, so I see how my body reacts to that. We plan on having at least three (four if I can convince my husband!) I don’t care about the physical changes to my body, my body is already changing as I age. I’m just worried about the psychological effects. I know my husband would fully support me if I chose to do it, we both believe adoption is a wonderful thing.