My mother was never a stripper, but she was an alcoholic.
I can still remember being 13 and knowing that I had lost all respect for both my parents. Not just because of the addiction, but all of the lies. That’s not how it’s supposed to be for 13 yr. olds and a part of you knows that.
I was fortunate to have a set of circumstances enabling me to get the hell out of there. Obviously this girl isn’t as fortunate.
I don’t think that the stripping (altho part of the overall picture) is the main issue here.
Much more salient and more corrosive is the addiction dynamics and the total chaos that always accompanies it.
I certainly don’t blame the daughter for her anger and lack of respect. But she needs to find something constructive to take it’s place or she will self destruct as well.
Get her into therapy and in contact with an Ala-Teen group so she can begin to deal with all this crap in a constructive instead of destructive way. She needs to know that biology is not destiny. She is not necessarily destined to follow in her mothers footsteps. She has choices.
But she needs to see that she realistically has other healthy options. But whatever else, get her out of that hell-hole masquerading as a family home. Even if it takes getting Social Services involved, it’s worth it.