@Lothloriengaladriel oh, I thought you had tried for this baby, from a different thread about how long it took to conceive.
I was 20 when I had my first, but turned 21 four days later. I was not married, but we married when our son was 13 months old. We just had our second, and I’m 23. (My husband was 24 with our first, and is 27 now.)
Having our first son completely changed my life. It’s been so stressful, but so life altering in a good way. I don’t know how to exactly describe it, but our first son definitely made me grow up and I’ve never looked back. I used to suffer depression and have not had any need for medication since October 2006 when I learned I was pregnant with him. In a way, I view him as saving my life.
Of course we have major financial struggles, because we’re young and both working on our college degrees. I won’t lie, it’s hard. I never have time to study, I have to forgo sleep or eating just to get studying done. And my husband has to work ALL the time to pay the bills and get us by.
You have to be willing to fight, and have patience when you become a parent. Its incredibly difficult but very rewarding.
I’m not sure if we’re going to have more. We were going to play it by ear and see how we felt when our youngest was 2. But, I don’t know if I want to give birth again, and go through pregnancy again. It’s just exhausting and physically draining. I’m just not sure I want to go through it, but luckily my husband is leaving it up to me since it’s my body and he wants whatever I want.