It’s usually an insecurity thing.
Really insecure people feel their identity is threatened by any, even relatively small disagreement or difference.
I just had a long conversation with a female friend last night who is just a few months out of yet another LTR and doing what shes always done, desperate to find a new man again.
She cannot fathom that I am happily single, not feeling any huge pull for a romantic relationship, and seems to feel a need to argue how in her opinion people that choose to not be in relationship must be somehow pahtological. haha
She truly cannot fathom that I am happily and consciously single, because she is so needy of male attention and validation.
My lifestyle somehow triggers her fears and when I comment on MY choices/preferences it always morphs into her defending hers. lol
She is tremendously uncomfortable with the idea of being alone and has never gone more that a few months between relationships since she was a teenager.
My happiness and peace is a completely foreign concept to her so she feels threatend by my independent lifestyle. I am aware of this so don’t take offense at her anxious defense of her neurotic need to be coupled. lol