What’s the up side? What’s the down side? It’s kind of like an emotional accounting. Weigh the positives and the negatives and your ability to manage them, and see what you want to do.
You like this guy. He’s a good friend. But is there more? Will you want more if you continue to see him? Or can you keep your feelings from growing stronger; switch to being friends?
It’s difficult to transition to friendship, but it is possible. You should take a good look at yourself and be honest with yourself about whether you can hold your more intimately emotional feelings at bay, and focus on your friendship feelings and have that be enough.
If you think you can do that, I’d stay involved with him. If not, then it’s probably best to tear yourself away. Of course, that is easier said than done. I believe that most people can’t do it. I believe that people are attracted to the challenge and the drama, and will give in to these impossible relationships just because it makes them feel like things matter so much. This is how we want to feel, I believe. Most of us, anyway.
Have you had drama in other parts of your life? Did it make you feel like it all matters so much? If there is anything like this, then it’s a pattern you should question. I’m not saying it’s bad or wrong. I’m just saying think you should ask yourself whether this is what your really want.
I really see nothing wrong with drama. It’s intense. I enjoy it. It’s gotten me in trouble, so I’m trying to stay away from it now. But it was intense, and I love intense. Makes me feel alive.
Other prefer a more orderly life. They prefer it safe. They want things more predictable. Drama is not for them. Which are you? Depending on the answer to that question, you should have a good idea of what you want to do with respect to this guy.