There is actually a young man at my work who is gay and out. It’s not a big thing and nobody talks about it because, quite frankly, it is an unimportant detail about him. His absolute love of Lady Gaga is much more important to me. In fact, I didn’t even know he was gay until I met his boyfriend one night when we all went bowling. I’m pretty sure he is much more uncomfortable with any possible overt displays of sexuality than anyone else is. He is very newly out and hasn’t quite gotten used to the idea that he doesn’t have to hide his true nature anymore.
Also, I’m just curious, when you say “how out,” what do you mean? I kinda figured if everyone knows you’re gay, you can’t get anymore out than that.