I can only speak for myself and my motives in my interactions with others, which is a genuine desire to connect and share.
Sadly, as our world and culture becomes increasingly narcissistic and self centered many “acts” of generosity or supposed communion with others ARE born of selfish and self interested motives.
I just read an article about whether or not narcissistic altruism is unethical.
Doing the right thing for the wrong reasons?
I suppose if the outcome is beneficial to others the end result is positive, but, personally, one of my biggest pet peeves in disingenuity.
Nothing will cause me to drop any relationship quicker than to discover anothers covert manipulative motives in any given situation.
I also think that a lack of true listening skill is rampant in our self centered world.
It is rare indeed for anyone to really, truly, HEAR another.
I am constantly observing how little others really listen, if you pay attention it is astounding!