My understanding is that this is the biggest dilemma a parent with a teenage daughter can have. If I as a parent push too hard to keep or get rid of the guy, the teenage hormones of independence are going to naturally push the other way. The better the relationship of the parents with the daughter the weaker the feelings are.
It isn’t a woman’s fault, necessarily that she thinks she can change a man. When both ‘fall’ in love, priorities change for both people. Instead of hanging with the guys or playing video games every night, he now chooses to spend time with you. Instead of spending money on the coolest new rims, he is going to get flowers, or chocolate, or a nice dinner for you.
Look at all that has changed already, it makes a women feel beautiful and enchanting. It also makes a woman feel like she has power to change a guy in other ways, because he changed in those ways.
If you remember nothing else in your life remember:
A person will not make permanent changes to themselves for anyone else but themselves…and if the changes are good they will be slow (personal growth).
a person can change was they do that is mostly easy. Change what time they get up. Change what workout they do at the gym. Change where they go out to eat. Changing who they are…that takes a lifelong commitment to growing as a person.
Hope this helps.