Ehhhhhh…. I mean maybe for some people it has, or younger people.
Personally, I don’t expect pornographic stories to play out with my SO or a date or what have you. Sometimes it’s nice to “role play” or have kinky sex, but I have to imagine that would have been the case without porn having been seen at some point too. There may be some moves or what have you that I’ve seen in porn that I’m interested in trying, but the reality of actual love making/sex is that it isn’t very much like professionally done porn… and the only ones who don’t realize that are the people who aren’t having sex. I mean at various points in my life I watched quite a bit of porn, but when I started having girlfriends or what have you, you find a lot of the things they do to be frankly impractical for either party enjoying the act… and more built around facilitating good camera angles.
Could be why I strongly favor “amateur” porn that gets uploaded to the internet. Aside from the women looking way better in my opinion, it’s usually clear that there’s a romantic relation between the couple and the sex is more realistic to what my own real life experiences are.
I do not think porn is a desensitizing thing, when used responsibly. As with any hobby or what have you, when abused it can become problematic in many aspects of your life. If you spend 3 hours a day looking at porn, it’s probably going to be a problem in your real life sex life with your SO… But I don’t frankly see that as any different than spending too much time playing video games or talking on Facebook.