Dude. I know how you feel. The aura!! I don’t even like women that much anymore as a rule, but I have been in love with this one older woman for years, and I don’t think that’ll ever stop.
I think that maturity is really attractive in anyone, I guess. But this one woman is truly magnetic. She charms everyone she encounters and it’s really difficult to say no to her.
I don’t have any answers for you, but yes, this is a phenomenon, haha.

I’ve never found any particular allure in older women. Even when I was younger, the maximum that I ever dated was about two years older than me. Anybody older than that was in a different place in her life (biological clock, career, whatever) and held no interest to me. The one I’m talking about was two years older chronologically, but she was about five years younger in maturity. What does that tell you?

But don’t let my experiences get in your way. If you are attracted, go for it. Just keep in mind that in the long term, the greater the age difference, the shorter the relationship – speaking in general terms.

@bookish1 I know exactly what you mean….I think those adverts for body sprays that say they attract the opposite sex are based on her aura

@elbanditoroso well yeah it is shorter a relationship in the long term if one person is 20 and the other is 75

@TheProfoundPorcupine – I’m talking about 28 and 35…..

I think it is in France, I stand to be corrected, where a womans age has no meaning. Women are just beautiful, magnetic or have that aura, regardless of their age. I find that so charming. So perhaps it is not their age but their innate allure, some have it some don’t? I love someone 16 years my junior. I do worry about the fact that I am so decrepit and he is so young, but he wont bugger off!!!

@Shippy it sounds like he has sat down and drank the full bottle of the Shippy aura if he wont bugger off…I think you are stuck with him (and I am sure you are not decrepit)

For me, it is her wisdom. Young women are very attractive and they might seem sexually appealing, but, due to a lack of experience, they often don’t have that je ne sait quoi that some older women have. Not all older women have it, either, but if a woman has it, then I fall in love with her helplessly.

It’s just a feeling, though, in most cases. I admire from a distance. There’s nothing I need do, other than be appreciative that I am in the presence of someone so compelling.

If there were a woman who had wisdom and knew how to flirt, then I might be lost. But I’ve learned, over the years, how to hold back and not let myself get sucked into her field of power. I might want that more than anything. She is so entrancing. But she is not for me. Yet I can appreciate her and sometimes I even let her know I appreciate her. But that’s where it ends.

And I hear that they are always grateful. I know I am.

They put out lots faster than 16 year old girls. And they know what they are doing.

They’re more mature and less idiotic.

Not into grannies, sorry.

@ragingloli You have no idea what you are missing. Not a clue!

She reminds you of your mom.

Self confidence. Independence.

That aura is that wisdom older women have of knowing most men are selfish, horny A-holes and this thick skin they develop of years of disappointments at the hands of men, enables them to all but ignore you which will drive most men near insane with desire.

Confidence and many times a calmness. I’m not attracted to women at all but I think I know what you are talking about. There are some women who draw you to them because of their stillness and confidence. They walk through life as if they know what tomorrow will bring. And even if they admit that they are not sure of tomorrow, they don’t seem frighten of that fact. They can seem almost untouchable by time or consequence. Ready to laugh at everything life sends their way. When you are around them you just feel pulled to them because you want to live in their world.
I like to call it an old soul. There is no particular age it happens in. I think some people are simply born that way. Some stay that way or they lose it before they get older. It usually tends to be people who observe a lot and have great empathy for others.

Define older.

I won’t.

Other than appreciating the mental and emotional maturity a woman has that is a bit older than women that are my age*, I don’t have any particular affinity for older women as a rule.

* This doesn’t even apply anymore now that I’m well into adulthood. But, when I was 16 and had a 20-year-old girlfriend, it made all the difference.

@Shippy: Yes, tout à fait, it is in France.

I am 8 years older than my husband. It was the sex.

@Supacase so, was it the allure of an older women or the appeal of a younger man? I’m guessing a combination of both.

Well, clearly us “older” women have a lot of appeal. We are confident in ourselves, not prone to girlish jealousies, low maintenance, as in, if you don’t call us for a few days we don’t care. haha
I’m not into the cougar thing, but, I have had lots of younger men show an interest in me. A woman in her prime could kill a man. lol

@Coloma The only part of that answer I identify with is, we could kill a man :( loll

@ragingloli grannies around the world breath a huge collective sigh of relief

@TheProfoundPorcupine ha-ha… sighhhhhhh

@TheProfoundPorcupine
Good thing I do not have to smell it.

@rojo Mostly the appeal of an older woman. Aside from endurance, he didn’t have much to bring to the table sexually – I had to train him.~ I had serious reservations about the age difference and it was kind of awkward hanging out with his friends. My interest toward him was that it was supposed to be an uncomplicated fling as I was coming off the heels of a complicated relationship.

@Supacase train him as in “don’t…......stop…......don’t…........stop….......don’t….........Ohgodohgodohgod…......etc.?

Because milf’s hump like a shit-house door in a hurricane.

A lot of them are independent with their own bank accounts, don’t need your loose change and don’t take any crap off any young smart mouth. Did I say that? How in God’s name can that be appealing? Oh, and yes: they’re very grateful. LOL !!!!
What it boils down to , I think, is they don’t have that clingy dependency that men find so annoying. They don’t say, “what are you thinking about?” because they don’t care! That’s what Andy Rooney said, anyway. I’m bad.

@Aster “They don’t say, “what are you thinking about?” because they don’t care!” Love that part of your answer.