I will only date nice guys. All of my boyfriends have been great guys that respected me. My previous relationships have ended on good terms of us understanding that there just wasn’t anything between us anymore. Even if I was bummed, I had to understand that if he didn’t feel the same way I might as well move on. I still slightly keep in touch with a couple. As for my current boyfriend, he is amazing. He is the greatest guy I know, and being friends for over five years I already knew that he is the nicest guy ever, and would do anything for me as I would for him.
Although I wished I could say the same for one of my friends, I can’t. I have seen her with bruises on her arms and it’s always a new lie. I don’t get it. She is absolutely beautiful, but always picks these guys that take advantage of her. She lets them be in control, and I have talked to her about it on many occasions. The thing is is that it is always the same two guys that she goes back to. They have literally beat it into her head that she can’t and won’t ever have anyone better. She believes them which is tragic.For example, one night when we were camping (We live twenty minutes from camping grounds) her boyfriend called at about three in the morning and told her that he was picking her up. She wasn’t even really with him during this time, but had no choice. My mom was the one that was at the camp fire with her as she waited for him. My mom told her not to go and that she would tell him he had to leave and threaten him if she had to. After all that she left with him without a word and her head down. Almost nothing we could do, but it seemed as though it was only my mom and I that cared. Her own parents were there and just let it happen.
So I guess what I am trying to say is that it all depends on the situation. I had a mom that raised me to be independent and to stand up for myself. It has paid off. As for my friend, she has a family that never even encourages her to do better. She has me and my mom who have known her since she was born, but sometimes that isn’t always enough after so much damage to the self esteem has corrupted her choice of men.