Hi, @nofurbelowsbatgirl!
I’m sorry you’re having a hard time.
As someone who has been taking part in discussion threads for a significant portion of my life, I have to say that I understand your frustration, to an extent. But it’s a form of stress that I find enjoyable. I like that some discussions make me question my own motives, my own beliefs, my own sources. If my comments are mocked by others, that’s motivation to look into why I said what I did. What is the reasoning behind that belief or that statement? Is it valid? Should I look into further researching my position on this topic?
If you are not of the mindset to constantly defend your position on certain topics, you might not enjoy what is, in its essence, a persuasive form of writing. Debate threads are just that. You’re presenting the case for your beliefs and then defending that case, with the intent to convince others of its validity.
Now, you’re from what is, in greater society, a majority position. You’re not accustomed to having your beliefs questioned in “polite society”. “This is what I believe” is generally enough for most people. On Fluther we tend to dig deeper than that. Why is abortion wrong? Why shouldn’t gay people get married? Why do you think God exists? We don’t necessarily want you to change your position, but we do want you to know why you’ve taken it, and understand the logic behind it. And, I among others want to encourage you, if you’ve never really thought about it beyond the simple fact of belief, to explore the logic behind it.
If that’s something you’re interested in doing, I encourage you to take a break, cool off, enjoy some non-Fluther time, and come back when you’re ready to talk. And if not, you can find a social group that fits your personality a bit better. Or, you can enjoy the light-hearted side of Fluther – the pancakes and the lurve parties, and avoid the debates.
Whatever works for you.