@livelaughlove21 Absolutely if they both have that sense of humor and want to do the tradition it is fine. I meant not good to start with your wife hating your guts when she specifically said don’t do it. I stated it clearly more than once, basically I was a nag about it. A nag because it was very important to me. The woman on Dr. Phil was also specific before the wedding. If the guy still does it, it is like a precursor to not caring when something will upset your wife, not listening to your wife, basically being dismissive of her feelings, and then add on top that she just had done to her what she didn’t want to endure in front of all her family and friends on a day she spent a lot of time and money planning. I get that maybe he had some sort of picture of doing it at his wedding, just like we picture other things from throwing a bouquet, and then it becomes whose picture of the day wins.