@gailcalled – A web search for pediatric insulin pump will give you a lot of links.
I haven’t personally known or worked with diabetic kids, but I do know that Juvenile Diabetes is a well-researched and supported condition. I am confident that if this family lives anywhere near a children’s hospital, they will have access to terrific programs to help guide them through the process. Again, the web will also have a multitude of resources and support groups.
From having worked in children’s hospitals, even with terminally ill kids, I observed that the psychological toll is usually much greater on the parents than the kids – and the kids’ biggest worry is usually their parents! For the children, they don’t have a lot to compare to, so they often take it in stride and it becomes their new normal. However, the parents have to go through a grieving process whenever they learn that their child’s future is not how they had pictured it. The more the parents can put aside their own worries and be positive and supportive of the kid, the better the outcome is overall. If the parent is really struggling to come to terms with their child having ‘special needs’ of one kind or another, the kids can tell. Hopefully your friend will find a good support system for parents, too.