It depends on the temperature. If It’s hot, I don’t really want to be touched while I sleep. When it’s cold, I can spoon, ½ under, or ½ over.
When the weather is cool, I can be a champion cuddlier. Like two pools merging.
Were it up to me and money was no object? The thermostat would be at around 67° at night, year round, but for about 2 months, one in the spring and one in the fall.
I’ve never slept with someone else but I can’t imagine I’d enjoy it. I move a lot in my sleep and sleep either on my back or straight on my side, so I’m not sure how someone would hold me. I also have trouble actually falling asleep and staying asleep, so the whole night would really just be a sleepless disaster for the other person.
@dxs – That is how I’ve been since my husband left. It sounds like you are searching in your sleep for a cuddle. Sorry to be so personal.
When we were newly weds, my husband and I fell asleep holding each other, and during the night we’d each scoot to our own side. Somewhere along the way, it witched. We would fall asleep on our own sides, and wake up pressed together, or holding the other. When he was traveling, I would wake up on his side.
I still can’t get used to having the whole thing to myself. I chase the pillows around until they jump to the floor for safety. Poor things! I should get myself a teddy bear, maybe.
I was married for about 300 years and I have really loved sleeping alone the last 12 now.
I bought myself a luxurious bed and I’m very happy sleeping alone, sprawled out with my 2 cats these days.
I’ve had enough spooning to get me through til my dying day. lol
There has been only one man in my life that I’ve been able to cuddle close together then actually sleep all night, and we had a son together. However, our relationship ended for good in 1993.
Ever since, I’ve not been able to sleep cuddled up with anyone comfortably. Some breathe too hard, some don’t angle or fit with my body right. some twitch like crazy. I got to a point where I preferred my space. It works well because my current bed-partner is such a light sleeper that he does not like to be touched while sleeping.
I also have the Human Radiator issue with my wife. If I let her cuddle through the night, I wake up in a puddle of sweat. And, as an added bonus, she drools like a monster. She is adorable though. :^)
Usually, the fastest way for me to fall asleep is with my husband cuddling or spooning, at minimum some sort of physical contact. It’s mostly because I tend to be cold, and his cuddle finally warms me up and then I can sleep. A warm down comforter has basically the same effect.
Once I’m warm then space is good.
If I am hot then I really need my space. I don’t even want the cuddle before sleep in that case.
I need space to cuddle with my four pillows. (My husband sleeps with five.)
We did the cuddle thing when we were younger, but his snoring kept me up and my twitching and kicking kept him up. Now we have a nice big king size bed for all our pillows and I can twitch as much as I need to.