I tend not to think in terms of those labels of blame, shame or fault. That is, I try to avoid judging situations (and people – and especially myself, because I do grant myself this one grace!) in the first place as bad or good. I do try to constantly evaluate situations and people, though, as to their degree of effectiveness, safety and security, intelligence and rationality, affluence and generosity, emotional stability and peace, capacity for violence and a whole laundry list of things that I’m not prepared to list here. (So, yes, constantly “observing and judging” in many more ways than I’m going to list – just not applying a label.)
But with all that in mind: I’m not assigning a label that requires me to think in terms of “good person”, “bad place”, “awful situation”, etc., just in a more general sense of “do I want to be here or not?” And whether the answer to that generalized (and seldom even vocalized) question is Yes or No – I’m responsible for making the assessment, answering the question, and whether I take action or not (or what actions I do take).
So “I’m responsible.” I’m always 100% responsible for being where I am and doing what I do.