I have mixed feelings for Ivanka, but not very sorry for her, even though I agree she is immediately identified with the craziness of her father. The press has asked Ivanka unfair questions in my opinion, she is his daughter after all. She also is in the administration, so she needs to present a somewhat united front as part of her job.
Plus, I do think there is absolutely nothing wrong with Ivanka doing some of what is typically the First Lady’s role. In my opinion people are completely unfair about this—I feel more sorry for Melania.
I have friends who hate Melania because she is pretty. Seriously? Female friends! That to me is a disgrace for women to dismiss another woman based on her looks, and it is her looks they were griping about not photos she has done or that she worked in the US illegally (which I completely believe she did).
Additionally, think if the spouse of a president doesn’t want to do what is usually the role associated with the spouse, we should be fine with it as long as the necessary parts of the job get done somehow. Are we not going to vote for a person whose marital status is not married? Because we have to have a spouse to fulfill the role? Having a spouse as president is a sacrifice, but I don’t think it has to prescribe a new occupation for the spouse, except for some minimal expectations.