@Inspired_2write It seems to me she hadn’t learned much of anything if she was badgering you like that, and if a counselor was encouraging that behavior that just reinforces my prior statements that there are bad therapists. Wow, sorry you had to deal with that.
At the same time, reaching out once to sincerely apologize and say I’m available if you want to try a relationship again, seems ok to me. One time. This isn’t your situation, but could be the case in others. Otherwise, if no one ever makes a move, and both want to repair the relationship, then it never happens. I’ve seen this in my husband’s family. They’re both telling me they don’t want to be totally estranged and they both don’t make a move. That’s just as crazy. They don’t talk for YEARS when they both want to repair things.
In the case of the OP, like I said, an ex is something else. That’s not a relationship that needs to continue even if the person was a good person, but the marriage just didn’t work out. Family might be different.