Perhaps a year of contemplation means a NSA is not actually what you want. I sense self-sabotage.
What would the message say?

Thank you for replying :)

I have the message written out as a private blog post already and it’s pretty much an essay lol

Basically a long story of my question on here.

9 parahraghs and 3 separate sentences, its definitely an essay.

To put the essay message to him short I apologise for finding him and messaging him on Facebook. He owns a site I use regularly and I ask to please not be banned for sending him this. I also ask for him to either reject me or let me wrap my legs around him.

I also say that if he happens to be married (I don’t know his marital status) to please forget I ever sent this because I’m not a homewrecker.

Pardon my naivete, but what is “NSA sex?”

jca2 – no strings attached sex

I don’t think an essay is normal or appropriate with a practical stranger you know little about. Perhaps a coffee date request is best.

@QuietGhost: Do you know anything about him? Have you been pm’ing him? I ask because I would think you might want to have had some correspondence with him to build up a mutual attraction, and also you might want to know something about him. Some examples of what you might want to know are about him as a person, if he’s a good person, is he a criminal, is he someone who’s going to rob you when you’re looking in the other direction, etc.

@jca2 only indirectly. He’s the admin of another site/forum that I use. He posts regularly so I know a few things about him but we’re not allowed to message him hence me finding his Facebook.

In a way, I feel like a fan and him a celebrity.

@QuietGhost Sounds pretty unlikely to me that you would get the response you are hoping for. Why not try to connect as a friend first and learn more about their status?

Please try to get to know him better before wanting more. Find out if he is married or with someone first. He may not be interested in you or maybe you’re too young or not his type. A celebrity seldom knows their fans nor wants anything to do with them.

Cybercrushing a webcelebrity with a digital love letter after querying an obsure online forum?

Sounds totally legit. And so wired.

Send it. Send it now.

Because I give terrible advice and I know you’ll listen.

Does your therapist think you should send it?

I would scrap the essay and the introspection and simply ask if he is interested in NSA sex.

Let’s say that I never send it…

How do I stop the impulse I get to send it frequently?

For almost a year, I’ve managed to talk myself out of it but the impulse is so frequent that sometimes I feel that it would be better to be reckless.

If I were open to NSA sex with someone, getting the invitation in an essay form would probably be one of the few ways to turn me off from that idea with them. For most guys interested in NSA sex (and yes I’m generalizing here) there are really only a few questions they’re going to have:

1. Is this person hot (or at least acceptably attractive)?
2. Is this a scam or some trick?
3. Will this get weird and fuck up my life in some way?

Your essay sets off all kinds of red flags for 2 & 3. If you’re legit interested (and you clearly are willing to pursue this beyond boundaries of respecting this person’s privacy), then you should just try to find them in person, and proposition them in person—the old fashioned way. Unless you’re a killer or something, in which case, seek help.

@QuietGhost “How do I stop the impulse I get to send it frequently?”

Delete it?

I thought about this overnight. I see nothing good about contacting the person, and only bad consequences for both of you.

I’m not opposed to NSA sex (although it seldom actually turns out to be NSA) – but with someone you barely know, you’re asking for trouble.

Get control of yourself.

A song always helps…
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kMpUUCgGjcA

I know I’m dating myself by posting this but this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jbs66c4bS40

^ I date myself all the time because, as you probably know by now…
nobody else wants to.

@WhyNow You date yourself? How the heck do you do that? sounds kinda weird..ewww

^^ especially holding your own hand.

@RayaHope Are you serious? Have you never heard the phrase, “I’m dating myself?”

^^ No I never heard that? What’s that mean?

@RayaHope: It means that by making the comment, we’re showing how old we are.

When I posted the YouTube link for the 1970’s song, I’m showing that I am old enough to remember songs from the 70’s.