Self respect is looking in the mirror and liking what you see. When you look at your life, you are happy with who you are, the decisions you have made to get to the place you are in life, etc. And if you see behaviors or actions you don’t like, you care enough to change them into things you do like.
The big premise of self-respect is a set of values. The more your values are well-defined the more you can tell what’s the right thing to do.
An honest assessment of how closely your actions align with your values can be the basis of a well-deserved self-respect when you get it right.