@Silhouette I agree “but you” is not a good way to go. But, I might want to continue a conversation about the incident to prevent it from happening in the future or to be understood (obviously it depends on the situation). I am thinking of a family situation I have. My husband’s family takes an apology as an admission of being the ONE wrong. @Harp expressed well that sometimes both people may have some responsibility. If I apologize to someone in his family that is their cue to think and say see, she was wrong, I was right. Nothing gets talked out, and no one really feels any better much of the time. If I apologize I kind of expect the other person at minimum to say something acknowledging the apology, not continue to try and make me feel like I am a total piece of shit. Better, would be if they said they feel badly also, care about our relationship and hate when these things happen, and be willing to listen to each other if someone feels the need to explain or felt they were misunderstood. I am thinking of dissagreements, maybe when something mean was said, not things like cheating and lying.